Guides to Life, Writing

{Day 6} I Urge You to Have a Life Outside of Your Day Job

Before I go on with what I envisioned to be an eye-opener, hope-giving article, I would like to ask you one question. Are you truly, madly, passionately in love with your day job, the work-life balance it gives you, the monetary benefits you get from it, the social benefits that comes along with it and the co-workers you interact with everyday? If yes, you may skip this article. If not, the darling, by all means, proceed.

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job. If you feel so grumpy on mornings, especially on Monday mornings, that you literally drag yourself into the shower. If you just got in your office and wished it was 5pm already. If lunch is only the time when you are alive in the office. If you dread your boss and your job and you feel you can’t do work for another day anymore. If you keep on dreaming of leaving your current job and pulling up the wittiest I-resign video which you plan to upload on 9Gag.

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job. If you consistently shrug the feeling of guilt for not being there for your wife. Or husband. If you are becoming more intimate with your computer than with your loved ones. When your puppy’s happy, delighted mood is replaced by a sad barking moan when you just walk away after saying hi to him as soon as you got home. When you’d rather do overtime work on the weekends.When you have exactly no idea what your teenage child is doing in school. When you’re just completely unattached with a bunch of people whom you call family.

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job when you feel like you are supposed to have a different job, way way different from your current one. When you think that your college course was a huge mistake. When you feel like a trapped artist in a left-brainers’ world. If you feel like life is unfair because you cannot just do what you love to do. When you feel like changing career or planning on doing so.

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job when you can’t recall the last time you had fun with friends. When the only people you have been talking to were either clients, sponsors, customers, superiors, suppliers and co-workers. When you felt embarrassed that you didn’t know your closest friend already has a baby and you asked her whose baby was she carrying when you bumped into her while on your way to the bank. When the only connection that you have with your friends is Facebook.

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job because what will become of  you if right there and then you are stripped off of your day job title? Do you have other things that you can do to keep you busy? Will you still have friends that you can depend on, those who still really care? Do you have other means of acquiring income? How about your health? Did you get a personal long-term healthcare aside from the company health insurance?

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job because what if years have passed you by and life left you old? Can you still do the things that you wanted to do while you were young? Did you get to kiss in Paris or soak up some sun in the Philippines? Did you get to play that Ultimate Frisbee your office friends were raving about? Would you have adventures to tell your grandchildren aside from how  you managed to debug a test program during your working days?

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job because life is not revolving on our work alone even though it eats up a third of our day on all weekdays of our lives. We ought to see the world our Creator has made for us to enjoy. We have to nurture relationships and not just start-ups. We have dreams of our own that we have to work on.

I urge you to have a life outside of your day job. You just owe that one to yourself.


20 thoughts on “{Day 6} I Urge You to Have a Life Outside of Your Day Job

  1. As I was reading through, I was thinking of my mom. Maybe if I told her to read this, she’d probably say… “I don’t need a life outside my day job. I need a new job! A better job with a happier workplace!” Haha!

    I guess it would also depend on the workplace. If the workplace is causing all the stress, negativity and conflicts, then an employee should leave. But if the workplace is okay and it’s just a matter of workload that’s causing the trouble, then having a life outside the day job is a great suggestion.

    Overall, this was a good piece – very nice read.

  2. Very nice article. I know close friends and relatives that were consumed (and burned) with JUST their work. Most of them eventually regret NOT keeping in touch with their friends and even family; and mostly not doing what they’ve always wanted to do. Life is short, let’s LIVE 🙂

  3. I agree. It’s really important to have a life aside from work. We can be replaceable at work but that’s not the case with our respective families. Also, we wouldn’t want to look back in the future and say I should have done that when I still can.

  4. My friend colleague commented on my lifestyle, and told me that I am workaholic. I replied, “Yeah! I love working, but I also love to parteeeeey!” Work-life-balance is well known to a lot of professionals but they don’t know how to do it.

    Personally, I have my monthly relaxation (massage, personal grooming ‘haircut’, body scrub, etc.), I attend social gatherings (meet with friends, watch movies, laugh out loud), I dine out in hotels, swim in a hot or cold pool (depends on the weather), yeah, I pamper and pay myself too, while I help and support my family. 🙂 And well, I could say, with confidence now, I love what I am doing, I love my job. 🙂

    Time is an illusion to those who use it productively! Great post! This affirms my lifestyle. 🙂

  5. I agree with Denise Jackons reply this is great advice. I own a photography business which I love but at times it feels like a day and night job depending on my work load. I think its very important to create that balance and to enjoy life or you can get frustrated, stressed or even angry. I rather be happy!

  6. Hmm.. call it ironic, but my day job is kinda my life? You will understand what I’m saying if you are a blogger too… I watch movies (having a life?) but I review them… I meet friends, but through events… so it’s almost like doing 2 things at one go…

  7. I’m a stay-at-home-Mum… I’ve forgotten what it is like to have a 9-5 day job. My life revolves around school runs and extra-curricular activities… I’m on the opposite side to the workers… I worry that I will have nothing once my children grow up and are no longer as dependent on me as they are now. I worry that I have lost who I truly am. What will I talk about when I no longer have my children’s progress to talk about?
    I think I need to get a life inside a day job!

    Great post btw!


  8. This is the main reason why I started blogging my travel adventures 🙂 I couldn’t agree more to the last words : I urge you to have a life outside of your day job. You just owe that one to yourself. Indeed 🙂

  9. This is definitely a guide to self help. You are correct that we must have work-life balance. If you felt heavy everytime you report for work, take a leave. Hace some me time. Travel. Give yoyrself a time to think of what is the thing that you really want. We must Understand that “We work to live. NOT we live to work”. ENJOY LIFE 🙂

  10. Blogging, travelling, piano == my life!!
    In work, no one is indespensible. So, work cannot be an entire world for an individual. I’m just lucky my boss supports in my other outside work activities.

  11. sinyee0504 says:

    I couldn’t agree more. But I will prefer work-life balance. I still need source of survival. So, I love planning short trip with my loved one and at least one long holiday with family every year.

  12. This is so true. There’s more to life than being stuck in an 8-5 chore called “day job.” I admit, I’m a workaholic myself, but after the working hours, I see to it I’m already on a different side of me, something I really liked at all.

  13. While reading through the article, I realized I’m thankful that I am still so much into my day job. I felt most of the things enumerated though when I was still working in the Philippines. Life back then was all work, work and work with a very low monetary benefit. It sucked but there was still happiness in teaching though. But yeah…it’s hard when you have to wake up and almost drag yourself to the bathroom to clean up for work.

  14. I was initially thinking of not proceeding as I have what I can personally call a good job. But then I was like, this article can still be of help. And it was truly nice to have come across this article and read its entirety. This is an amazing piece that can really help those people who are in similar situation.

  15. 3xhcch says:

    This is the precise reason why I blog! We all need something to get the stresses of our day job our of our system. Writing is my release. – Fred

  16. Eliz Frank says:

    Actually, some people live through their work life and enjoy it. Since we spend more time at work than at home, we might as well make the best of it. Given the terrible economic downturn that cost millions of people their jobs in the US, having a job today is a gift. Most workers have more work to do because companies down-sized; but sure, if you have any energy left after a week of work, rejuvenate and reconnect with loved ones. 🙂 I’m all for it.

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